What do most people get embarrassed by in sex? Here are the most common sexual mishaps that bother people. And yet many find them not embarrassing at all. You decide which are your sexual demons... Research into what distracts us, tells us that women are more worried about issues concerning their appearance (what they look [...]
Many couples get stuck in a negative cycle of rejection-pressure. The more the higher-desire partner want to have sex, the more pressure they put on the other person (either overtly or subtly), and the more pressure the low-desire partner feels, the less likely they are to feel sexual. And round they go in a negative [...]
Being turned down for sex can feel awful. Especially when it is coming from the person we care the most about. Because this moment is inevitable and common in long-term relationships it pays to do it well. Sexual rejection is one of the worst kinds of rejection. Three things make it so, particularly in long-term [...]
How sex starts, sexual initiation is a crucial step in determining whether sex happens or not. Research tells us that the frequency of sex (in established couples) can decrease with proximity or increase with opportunity. This study looked at sexual initiation in the time of social isolation to see whether the frequency of sexual initiation [...]
2500 women describe how they "get over the edge" to orgasm Too many women are having trouble reaching orgasm, but only when with a partner. Women only orgasm one time for every three times men orgasm. When women are on their own it is a different story. This discrepancy prompted us to find out more [...]
If Your Initiation Style is: Sensation (* While each person has a complex mix of all arousal types, we can gain valuable insight into knowing which are the most compelling drivers to our arousal.) The Sensation Initiation type is the 'embodiment' of sex. You derive most of your erotic arousal from the senses. The physical [...]
How to turn-on your partner, with the four sexual initiation styles. While we all may appreciate different ways to start sex, most of us get turned on by a 1 or 2 styles more than others. Knowing your partner's preferred style is a sure-fire way to open engage your erotic brain when you are with [...]
The most popular ways women (and men) want to be approached for sex. We are very different when it comes to how we want to start a sexual encounter. To understand this crucial make-or-break initiating moment we asked 500 people their initiation preferences. 400 women and 100 men in N. America answered a questionnaire online [...]
Doing Sexual Initiation Well You may inadvertently be turning your partner off with an initiation strategy that doesn’t work for them. If you want more sex but don’t know the best way to approach your partner for sex, here are the top sexual initiation tips to know how to initiate sex with your individual partner. [...]
Why can't my partner just "take charge" in bed? This is the question too many women (and men) ask when they come looking for help to improve their sagging sex lives. The first step is to fully understand what they mean by "taking charge." After a bit of probing this phrase is often a common [...]