Kissing more often or more deeply
Kissing more often or more deeply: Never effective
Kissing more often or more deeply: Rarely effective
Kissing more often or more deeply: Occasionally effective
Kissing more often or more deeply: Often effective
Kissing more often or more deeply: Always effective
Hearing my lover moan, scream or vocalizing their pleasure
Hearing my lover moan, scream or vocalizing their pleasure: Never effective
Hearing my lover moan, scream or vocalizing their pleasure: Rarely effective
Hearing my lover moan, scream or vocalizing their pleasure: Occasionally effective
Hearing my lover moan, scream or vocalizing their pleasure: Often effective
Hearing my lover moan, scream or vocalizing their pleasure: Always effective
Moaning, screaming or vocalizing my pleasure
Moaning, screaming or vocalizing my pleasure: Never effective
Moaning, screaming or vocalizing my pleasure: Rarely effective
Moaning, screaming or vocalizing my pleasure: Occasionally effective
Moaning, screaming or vocalizing my pleasure: Often effective
Moaning, screaming or vocalizing my pleasure: Always effective
Watching my lover's excitement, pleasure or orgasm
Watching my lover's excitement, pleasure or orgasm: Never effective
Watching my lover's excitement, pleasure or orgasm: Rarely effective
Watching my lover's excitement, pleasure or orgasm: Occasionally effective
Watching my lover's excitement, pleasure or orgasm: Often effective
Watching my lover's excitement, pleasure or orgasm: Always effective
Talking dirty
Talking dirty: Never effective
Talking dirty: Rarely effective
Talking dirty: Occasionally effective
Talking dirty: Often effective
Talking dirty: Always effective
Holding tighter, pulling closer or pushing into my lover
Holding tighter, pulling closer or pushing into my lover: Never effective
Holding tighter, pulling closer or pushing into my lover: Rarely effective
Holding tighter, pulling closer or pushing into my lover: Occasionally effective
Holding tighter, pulling closer or pushing into my lover: Often effective
Holding tighter, pulling closer or pushing into my lover: Always effective
Focusing on my physical sensations
Focusing on my physical sensations: Never effective
Focusing on my physical sensations: Rarely effective
Focusing on my physical sensations: Occasionally effective
Focusing on my physical sensations: Often effective
Focusing on my physical sensations: Always effective
Focusing on the pleasure I am feeling
Focusing on the pleasure I am feeling: Never effective
Focusing on the pleasure I am feeling: Rarely effective
Focusing on the pleasure I am feeling: Occasionally effective
Focusing on the pleasure I am feeling: Often effective
Focusing on the pleasure I am feeling: Always effective
"Letting go" into the experience
"Letting go" into the experience: Never effective
"Letting go" into the experience: Rarely effective
"Letting go" into the experience: Occasionally effective
"Letting go" into the experience: Often effective
"Letting go" into the experience: Always effective
Focusing on how close (emotionally) I feel to my lover
Focusing on how close (emotionally) I feel to my lover: Never effective
Focusing on how close (emotionally) I feel to my lover: Rarely effective
Focusing on how close (emotionally) I feel to my lover: Occasionally effective
Focusing on how close (emotionally) I feel to my lover: Often effective
Focusing on how close (emotionally) I feel to my lover: Always effective
Looking at or thinking about my lover's body (or part)
Looking at or thinking about my lover's body (or part): Never effective
Looking at or thinking about my lover's body (or part): Rarely effective
Looking at or thinking about my lover's body (or part): Occasionally effective
Looking at or thinking about my lover's body (or part): Often effective
Looking at or thinking about my lover's body (or part): Always effective
Focusing on how sexy I look or feel
Focusing on how sexy I look or feel: Never effective
Focusing on how sexy I look or feel: Rarely effective
Focusing on how sexy I look or feel: Occasionally effective
Focusing on how sexy I look or feel: Often effective
Focusing on how sexy I look or feel: Always effective
Caressing, touching or feeling skin-on-skin
Caressing, touching or feeling skin-on-skin: Never effective
Caressing, touching or feeling skin-on-skin: Rarely effective
Caressing, touching or feeling skin-on-skin: Occasionally effective
Caressing, touching or feeling skin-on-skin: Often effective
Caressing, touching or feeling skin-on-skin: Always effective
Focusing on what my lover and I are sharing together
Focusing on what my lover and I are sharing together: Never effective
Focusing on what my lover and I are sharing together: Rarely effective
Focusing on what my lover and I are sharing together: Occasionally effective
Focusing on what my lover and I are sharing together: Often effective
Focusing on what my lover and I are sharing together: Always effective
Telling my lover how much I love or care, or hearing them tell me
Telling my lover how much I love or care, or hearing them tell me: Never effective
Telling my lover how much I love or care, or hearing them tell me: Rarely effective
Telling my lover how much I love or care, or hearing them tell me: Occasionally effective
Telling my lover how much I love or care, or hearing them tell me: Often effective
Telling my lover how much I love or care, or hearing them tell me: Always effective
Relaxing or clenching/tensing my muscles
Relaxing or clenching/tensing my muscles: Never effective
Relaxing or clenching/tensing my muscles: Rarely effective
Relaxing or clenching/tensing my muscles: Occasionally effective
Relaxing or clenching/tensing my muscles: Often effective
Relaxing or clenching/tensing my muscles: Always effective
Being encouraged to have an orgasm
Being encouraged to have an orgasm: Never effective
Being encouraged to have an orgasm: Rarely effective
Being encouraged to have an orgasm: Occasionally effective
Being encouraged to have an orgasm: Often effective
Being encouraged to have an orgasm: Always effective
Imagining myself having, or telling my lover, I am about to orgasm
Imagining myself having, or telling my lover, I am about to orgasm: Never effective
Imagining myself having, or telling my lover, I am about to orgasm: Rarely effective
Imagining myself having, or telling my lover, I am about to orgasm: Occasionally effective
Imagining myself having, or telling my lover, I am about to orgasm: Often effective
Imagining myself having, or telling my lover, I am about to orgasm: Always effective
Keeping going, doing the same thing we are doing
Keeping going, doing the same thing we are doing: Never effective
Keeping going, doing the same thing we are doing: Rarely effective
Keeping going, doing the same thing we are doing: Occasionally effective
Keeping going, doing the same thing we are doing: Often effective
Keeping going, doing the same thing we are doing: Always effective
Watching what we are doing
Watching what we are doing : Never effective
Watching what we are doing : Rarely effective
Watching what we are doing : Occasionally effective
Watching what we are doing : Often effective
Watching what we are doing : Always effective
Mentally picturing something that turns me on -- fantasizing
Mentally picturing something that turns me on -- fantasizing : Never effective
Mentally picturing something that turns me on -- fantasizing : Rarely effective
Mentally picturing something that turns me on -- fantasizing : Occasionally effective
Mentally picturing something that turns me on -- fantasizing : Often effective
Mentally picturing something that turns me on -- fantasizing : Always effective
Doing something "taboo" or "naughty"
Doing something "taboo" or "naughty": Never effective
Doing something "taboo" or "naughty": Rarely effective
Doing something "taboo" or "naughty": Occasionally effective
Doing something "taboo" or "naughty": Often effective
Doing something "taboo" or "naughty": Always effective
Imagining a porn or erotic scene
Imagining a porn or erotic scene: Never effective
Imagining a porn or erotic scene: Rarely effective
Imagining a porn or erotic scene: Occasionally effective
Imagining a porn or erotic scene: Often effective
Imagining a porn or erotic scene: Always effective
Teasing my lover (or being teased)
Teasing my lover (or being teased): Never effective
Teasing my lover (or being teased): Rarely effective
Teasing my lover (or being teased): Occasionally effective
Teasing my lover (or being teased): Often effective
Teasing my lover (or being teased): Always effective
Making eye-contact with my lover
Making eye-contact with my lover: Never effective
Making eye-contact with my lover: Rarely effective
Making eye-contact with my lover: Occasionally effective
Making eye-contact with my lover: Often effective
Making eye-contact with my lover: Always effective
Going harder, faster, deeper or increasing intensity
Going harder, faster, deeper or increasing intensity: Never effective
Going harder, faster, deeper or increasing intensity: Rarely effective
Going harder, faster, deeper or increasing intensity: Occasionally effective
Going harder, faster, deeper or increasing intensity: Often effective
Going harder, faster, deeper or increasing intensity: Always effective
Slowing down, taking time
Slowing down, taking time: Never effective
Slowing down, taking time: Rarely effective
Slowing down, taking time: Occasionally effective
Slowing down, taking time: Often effective
Slowing down, taking time: Always effective
Dominating or directing a submissive lover
Dominating or directing a submissive lover: Never effective
Dominating or directing a submissive lover: Rarely effective
Dominating or directing a submissive lover: Occasionally effective
Dominating or directing a submissive lover: Often effective
Dominating or directing a submissive lover: Always effective
Submitting or surrendering to a dominant lover
Submitting or surrendering to a dominant lover: Never effective
Submitting or surrendering to a dominant lover: Rarely effective
Submitting or surrendering to a dominant lover: Occasionally effective
Submitting or surrendering to a dominant lover: Often effective
Submitting or surrendering to a dominant lover: Always effective
Thinking about force or rough play
Thinking about force or rough play: Never effective
Thinking about force or rough play: Rarely effective
Thinking about force or rough play: Occasionally effective
Thinking about force or rough play: Often effective
Thinking about force or rough play: Always effective
Being held down or being restrained
Being held down or being restrained: Never effective
Being held down or being restrained: Rarely effective
Being held down or being restrained: Occasionally effective
Being held down or being restrained: Often effective
Being held down or being restrained: Always effective
Holding down or restraining my lover
Holding down or restraining my lover: Never effective
Holding down or restraining my lover: Rarely effective
Holding down or restraining my lover: Occasionally effective
Holding down or restraining my lover: Often effective
Holding down or restraining my lover: Always effective
Scratching/biting or being scratched/bitten
Scratching/biting or being scratched/bitten: Never effective
Scratching/biting or being scratched/bitten: Rarely effective
Scratching/biting or being scratched/bitten: Occasionally effective
Scratching/biting or being scratched/bitten: Often effective
Scratching/biting or being scratched/bitten: Always effective
Changing my breathing -- slower, faster or holding
Changing my breathing -- slower, faster or holding : Never effective
Changing my breathing -- slower, faster or holding : Rarely effective
Changing my breathing -- slower, faster or holding : Occasionally effective
Changing my breathing -- slower, faster or holding : Often effective
Changing my breathing -- slower, faster or holding : Always effective
Stimulating my clitoris or penis head ( with oral sex, hand or sex toy)
Stimulating my clitoris or penis head ( with oral sex, hand or sex toy): Never effective
Stimulating my clitoris or penis head ( with oral sex, hand or sex toy): Rarely effective
Stimulating my clitoris or penis head ( with oral sex, hand or sex toy): Occasionally effective
Stimulating my clitoris or penis head ( with oral sex, hand or sex toy): Often effective
Stimulating my clitoris or penis head ( with oral sex, hand or sex toy): Always effective
Stimulating my lover's body part -- nipple, breast, balls, taint, etc
Stimulating my lover's body part -- nipple, breast, balls, taint, etc: Never effective
Stimulating my lover's body part -- nipple, breast, balls, taint, etc: Rarely effective
Stimulating my lover's body part -- nipple, breast, balls, taint, etc: Occasionally effective
Stimulating my lover's body part -- nipple, breast, balls, taint, etc: Often effective
Stimulating my lover's body part -- nipple, breast, balls, taint, etc: Always effective
Having my other body part (nipple, breast, balls, butt, taint, etc) stimulated
Having my other body part (nipple, breast, balls, butt, taint, etc) stimulated: Never effective
Having my other body part (nipple, breast, balls, butt, taint, etc) stimulated: Rarely effective
Having my other body part (nipple, breast, balls, butt, taint, etc) stimulated: Occasionally effective
Having my other body part (nipple, breast, balls, butt, taint, etc) stimulated: Often effective
Having my other body part (nipple, breast, balls, butt, taint, etc) stimulated: Always effective
Anal touching or play (eg. fingering, rimming, intercourse, pegging, etc.)
Anal touching or play (eg. fingering, rimming, intercourse, pegging, etc.): Never effective
Anal touching or play (eg. fingering, rimming, intercourse, pegging, etc.): Rarely effective
Anal touching or play (eg. fingering, rimming, intercourse, pegging, etc.): Occasionally effective
Anal touching or play (eg. fingering, rimming, intercourse, pegging, etc.): Often effective
Anal touching or play (eg. fingering, rimming, intercourse, pegging, etc.): Always effective
Imagining a threesome or group sex
Imagining a threesome or group sex: Never effective
Imagining a threesome or group sex: Rarely effective
Imagining a threesome or group sex: Occasionally effective
Imagining a threesome or group sex: Often effective
Imagining a threesome or group sex: Always effective
Doing something "new" that we don't normally do
Doing something "new" that we don't normally do : Never effective
Doing something "new" that we don't normally do : Rarely effective
Doing something "new" that we don't normally do : Occasionally effective
Doing something "new" that we don't normally do : Often effective
Doing something "new" that we don't normally do : Always effective
Getting into position(s) to get more stimulation
Getting into position(s) to get more stimulation: Never effective
Getting into position(s) to get more stimulation: Rarely effective
Getting into position(s) to get more stimulation: Occasionally effective
Getting into position(s) to get more stimulation: Often effective
Getting into position(s) to get more stimulation: Always effective
Spanking, flicking or slapping
Spanking, flicking or slapping: Never effective
Spanking, flicking or slapping: Rarely effective
Spanking, flicking or slapping: Occasionally effective
Spanking, flicking or slapping: Often effective
Spanking, flicking or slapping: Always effective
Smelling or tasting
Smelling or tasting: Never effective
Smelling or tasting: Rarely effective
Smelling or tasting: Occasionally effective
Smelling or tasting: Often effective
Smelling or tasting: Always effective
Hair pulling, hitting or choking (in play)
Hair pulling, hitting or choking (in play): Never effective
Hair pulling, hitting or choking (in play): Rarely effective
Hair pulling, hitting or choking (in play): Occasionally effective
Hair pulling, hitting or choking (in play): Often effective
Hair pulling, hitting or choking (in play): Always effective
Stopping thinking, letting my mind going blank
Stopping thinking, letting my mind going blank: Never effective
Stopping thinking, letting my mind going blank: Rarely effective
Stopping thinking, letting my mind going blank: Occasionally effective
Stopping thinking, letting my mind going blank: Often effective
Stopping thinking, letting my mind going blank: Always effective
Thinking about how my lover desires me or how much they "want me"
Thinking about how my lover desires me or how much they "want me": Never effective
Thinking about how my lover desires me or how much they "want me": Rarely effective
Thinking about how my lover desires me or how much they "want me": Occasionally effective
Thinking about how my lover desires me or how much they "want me": Often effective
Thinking about how my lover desires me or how much they "want me": Always effective
Thinking about how well my lover treats me or how committed they are
Thinking about how well my lover treats me or how committed they are: Never effective
Thinking about how well my lover treats me or how committed they are: Rarely effective
Thinking about how well my lover treats me or how committed they are: Occasionally effective
Thinking about how well my lover treats me or how committed they are: Often effective
Thinking about how well my lover treats me or how committed they are: Always effective
Imagining we are (or I am) being watched.
Imagining we are (or I am) being watched.: Never effective
Imagining we are (or I am) being watched.: Rarely effective
Imagining we are (or I am) being watched.: Occasionally effective
Imagining we are (or I am) being watched.: Often effective
Imagining we are (or I am) being watched.: Always effective
Feeling an intense sensation or pain
Feeling an intense sensation or pain: Never effective
Feeling an intense sensation or pain: Rarely effective
Feeling an intense sensation or pain: Occasionally effective
Feeling an intense sensation or pain: Often effective
Feeling an intense sensation or pain: Always effective
Feeling or seeing a particular piece of cloth or clothing (latex, silk, etc)
Feeling or seeing a particular piece of cloth or clothing (latex, silk, etc): Never effective
Feeling or seeing a particular piece of cloth or clothing (latex, silk, etc): Rarely effective
Feeling or seeing a particular piece of cloth or clothing (latex, silk, etc): Occasionally effective
Feeling or seeing a particular piece of cloth or clothing (latex, silk, etc): Often effective
Feeling or seeing a particular piece of cloth or clothing (latex, silk, etc): Always effective
Begging or being begged for more
Begging or being begged for more: Never effective
Begging or being begged for more: Rarely effective
Begging or being begged for more: Occasionally effective
Begging or being begged for more: Often effective
Begging or being begged for more: Always effective
Imagining being with a new or another person
Imagining being with a new or another person: Never effective
Imagining being with a new or another person: Rarely effective
Imagining being with a new or another person: Occasionally effective
Imagining being with a new or another person: Often effective
Imagining being with a new or another person: Always effective
Imagining my lover with another lover(s)
Imagining my lover with another lover(s): Never effective
Imagining my lover with another lover(s): Rarely effective
Imagining my lover with another lover(s): Occasionally effective
Imagining my lover with another lover(s): Often effective
Imagining my lover with another lover(s): Always effective
Lover stopping me or holding me back from orgasm
Lover stopping me or holding me back from orgasm : Never effective
Lover stopping me or holding me back from orgasm : Rarely effective
Lover stopping me or holding me back from orgasm : Occasionally effective
Lover stopping me or holding me back from orgasm : Often effective
Lover stopping me or holding me back from orgasm : Always effective
G-Spot or P-Spot (prostate) stimulation
G-Spot or P-Spot (prostate) stimulation: Never effective
G-Spot or P-Spot (prostate) stimulation: Rarely effective
G-Spot or P-Spot (prostate) stimulation: Occasionally effective
G-Spot or P-Spot (prostate) stimulation: Often effective
G-Spot or P-Spot (prostate) stimulation: Always effective
Imagining or changing our location/lighting
Imagining or changing our location/lighting: Never effective
Imagining or changing our location/lighting: Rarely effective
Imagining or changing our location/lighting: Occasionally effective
Imagining or changing our location/lighting: Often effective
Imagining or changing our location/lighting: Always effective
Closing my eyes and focusing inward
Closing my eyes and focusing inward: Never effective
Closing my eyes and focusing inward: Rarely effective
Closing my eyes and focusing inward: Occasionally effective
Closing my eyes and focusing inward: Often effective
Closing my eyes and focusing inward: Always effective
Taking forcefully or using (in play)
Taking forcefully or using (in play): Never effective
Taking forcefully or using (in play): Rarely effective
Taking forcefully or using (in play): Occasionally effective
Taking forcefully or using (in play): Often effective
Taking forcefully or using (in play): Always effective
Being taken forcefully or used (in play)
Being taken forcefully or used (in play): Never effective
Being taken forcefully or used (in play): Rarely effective
Being taken forcefully or used (in play): Occasionally effective
Being taken forcefully or used (in play): Often effective
Being taken forcefully or used (in play): Always effective
Using softer, more sensual touches or caresses
Using softer, more sensual touches or caresses: Never effective
Using softer, more sensual touches or caresses: Rarely effective
Using softer, more sensual touches or caresses: Occasionally effective
Using softer, more sensual touches or caresses: Often effective
Using softer, more sensual touches or caresses: Always effective
Role playing
Role playing: Never effective
Role playing: Rarely effective
Role playing: Occasionally effective
Role playing: Often effective
Role playing: Always effective
Being encouraged to enjoy my pleasure
Being encouraged to enjoy my pleasure: Never effective
Being encouraged to enjoy my pleasure: Rarely effective
Being encouraged to enjoy my pleasure: Occasionally effective
Being encouraged to enjoy my pleasure: Often effective
Being encouraged to enjoy my pleasure: Always effective