What disastrous strategy are couples using for sex? Silence. And this self-imposed hush around "our sex life" is keeping us from getting what we want sexually and is distancing us from our partners. Carrie and John started out hot and heavy, spending hours touching and talking. Every graze of skin felt arousing. But ever since [...]
Being able to talk about sex with your partner is crucial for a good sex life and relationship. Most of us have something we would like to let our partner know or ask our partner, but our partner is somehow not engaging with us. Talking about sex doesn't always feel easy at the best of [...]
Talking to your partner about sex? Can be a scary prospect. The ugly truth is that nobody can read their lover's mind. The romantic myth says that our lovers (if they really love us) should somehow instinctively know to please us sexually. And we them. But in reality, lovers are mostly guessing what their partner likes in bed. And [...]
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What do you do when your and your partner are completely different sexual types? You love your partner. Your partner loves you. You are in a good partnership. The household is running smoothly, bills are paid, kids are healthy and happy, and you even still have some fun together. Except something is missing. You just don't [...]
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Your Sexual Contract (BDSM) [download file=https://isu.wjc.mybluehost.me/Art-of-connection/wp-content/uploads/downloads/2014/05/SEXUAL-CONTRACT_BDSM.pdf] (email addresses are never sold or misused) Get your BDSM contract to fill out with your partner (or on your own). * while this contract was inspired by a similar contract from the novel 50 Shades of Grey, this contract is more general and inclusive -- designed to [...]
The 50 Shades Solution …Polyamory? One reason why so many women may be swooning over 50 Shades of Grey may be not for the reasons we have been talking about. A speaker at last week’s adult toy show in Las Vegas described how women may not be so interested by the sex per se of [...]
Get your sexual contract to fill out with your partner (or on your own). * while this contract was inspired by a similar contract from the novel 50 Shades of Grey, this contract is more general and inclusive -- designed to be sex-positive. 1. Your Sexual Contract (Basic Version) * there is no obligation or [...]
Now you have a contract, but I need help to talk to my partner Negotiating a sexual contract can be an enlightening and fun experience designed to inspire you and help you get what you want sexually. Contracts are tools for communication and clarification about what lights us up sexually. Understanding our sexuality better can [...]