Know what turns you on – Use it!
What is a sexual trigger?
A sexual trigger is a thought, sight, smell or anything that gets your erotic juices flowing. It is often automatic. We don’t have to process the thought, it just works to get us hot.
Our sexual triggers can surprise us, getting us horny over politically incorrect thoughts like sexual force (a common fantasy for everyone), or they can be predictable and “vanilla”.
What we do know is that our sexual triggers are unique to us. No one else has the combination of turn-ons that we do. We have our own unique Erotic Map.
The theory is that we develop our sexual triggers all through our lives, starting in childhood. An early experience (sight, sound) becomes paired with an erotic feeling. Early adolescence is the time when much or our erotic map is imprinted. As we move into adulthood many of the sexual triggers we formed in adolescence can stick with us, while others morph to include what we learn and experience.
Most people get to know their sexual triggers through masturbation. Certain thoughts, images or stimulus, works to arouse us. It is these thoughts/images that we can keep returning to that help us reach orgasm or get aroused.
Fantasy can be a particularly powerful tool when identifying and developing our sexual triggers. We just need to pay attention. Our body will automatically response to a thought, or stimulation. We just need to note, when we get hot? Wet? Hard?
I have been a clinical sexologist focusing on women’s issues for 15 years. While men seem to have little hesitation when asked what turns them on (some times going into exceptional detail), many women are not always as aware of their sexual triggers.
What can finding your sexual trigger do for you?
Benefits of sexual triggers.
I have outlined a few ways to discover and develop your sexual triggers with fantasy.