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Increasing your sexual desire maybe as easy as paying attention to your own clue to sexual desire

Want to “feel” yCues to Sexual Desire Feelings and Emotionalour sexual desire more? Sexual desire is often not absent, instead it could be “missed.” The body reacts automatically to sexual cues, and we can respond to them in many ways. Some times we  shut down our sexual desire, even before we become aware of it.  You can feel many types of cues to sexual desire. Here are some tips to increase your sensitivity to the feeling or emotional cues of sexual desire:

  1. Get comfortable wherever you are. Close your eyes (or if you are not in a place you can comfortably close your eyes, turn your focus inward).
  2. Become aware of your breathing. Take a few breaths to notice the rise and fall of your breath.
  3. Think of a sexy thought, read or watch a sexy scene or think of a sexual fantasy.
  4. Focus in on how you feel as you feel your body respond:
    1. Are you feeling excited? Or do you feel relaxed and calm?
    2. Is it bringing up anxiety?  Or frustration?
    3. Does it feel more energetic or powerful?
    4. Do you feel sexy or alluring?
    5. Connected? Or more self-focused?
  5. You may find yourself getting distracted, as other thoughts or sounds grab your attention. That’s okay.  Just notice the thoughts and sounds, and then let them pass.
  6. Before you take your attention away from your sensations, take time to see what else you notice.  Remember, this is a special sensation, a sensation that lives within you, a sensation you can remember and revisit any time you choose. And every time you feel this sensation, you are reminded of your strength and of what makes you special.

Here are some ways others have described their “feeling” cues:

  •  Feeling powerful
  • Feeling attractive or sexy
  • Feeling flustered or jittery
  • Feeling relaxed or calm
  • Feeling connected
  • Feeling playful
  • Feeling open or vulnerable
  • Feeling good or happy
  • Feeling frustrated or anxious
  • Feeling an urgency
  • Feeling an anticipation or wanting

 

Explore the other cues to sexual desire — tips to become aware of your physical body cues and yearning motivational cues.

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