What do most people get embarrassed by in sex? Here are the most common sexual mishaps that bother people. And yet many find them not embarrassing at all. You decide which are your sexual demons... Research into what distracts us, tells us that women are more worried about issues concerning their appearance (what they look [...]
Many couples get stuck in a negative cycle of rejection-pressure. The more the higher-desire partner want to have sex, the more pressure they put on the other person (either overtly or subtly), and the more pressure the low-desire partner feels, the less likely they are to feel sexual. And round they go in a negative [...]
Being turned down for sex can feel awful. Especially when it is coming from the person we care the most about. Because this moment is inevitable and common in long-term relationships it pays to do it well. Sexual rejection is one of the worst kinds of rejection. Three things make it so, particularly in long-term [...]
How sex starts, sexual initiation is a crucial step in determining whether sex happens or not. Research tells us that the frequency of sex (in established couples) can decrease with proximity or increase with opportunity. This study looked at sexual initiation in the time of social isolation to see whether the frequency of sexual initiation [...]
2500 women describe how they "get over the edge" to orgasm Too many women are having trouble reaching orgasm, but only when with a partner. Women only orgasm one time for every three times men orgasm. When women are on their own it is a different story. This discrepancy prompted us to find out more [...]
If Your Initiation Style is: Surrender (* While each person has a complex mix of all arousal types, we can gain valuable insight into knowing which are the most compelling drivers to our arousal.) Playing with power is the way this type accesses their arousal. Most sexual arousal comes from the thought of being overwhelmed [...]
If Your Initiation Style is: Sensation (* While each person has a complex mix of all arousal types, we can gain valuable insight into knowing which are the most compelling drivers to our arousal.) The Sensation Initiation type is the 'embodiment' of sex. You derive most of your erotic arousal from the senses. The physical [...]
If Your Initiation Type is: Seductive-Exotic (Sexotic) (* While each person has a complex mix of all arousal types, we can gain valuable insight into knowing which are the most compelling drivers to our arousal.) The 'sex-pot' of the arousal types. Do me! The Seductive-Exotic Initiation Type gets their main erotic buzz from the game of [...]
Inside the head of the Initiation Style: Sex-Talk (* While each person has a complex mix of preferences, we can gain valuable insight into knowing which are the most compelling drivers to our arousal.) Sex-Talk Sexual Initiation Style The Sex-Talk Initiation Type connects to their sexual arousal with words. But not every word, [...]
Inside the head of the Initiation Style: Sentiment-Emotional (* While each person has a complex mix of preferences, we can gain valuable insight into knowing which are the most compelling drivers to our arousal.) The Sentiment-Emotional Initiation Type (aka "Sentiment") comes the closest to the pure lover-connection. Sharing thoughts and feelings and having that connected [...]